Many verses are interpreted to mean that a wife should obey her husband. Let me re-iterate that: many verses are wrongly interpreted to mean that a wife should obey her husband’s every command. One verse in question is:
22Wives, submit to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
Ephesians 5:22,23 (NIV)
Nowhere in the scripture does it say to “obey” but, rather instructs wives to “submit” — there is a vast difference and we will explore that here. To submit is to allow someone to take charge, to yield. It is important that a man be allowed to take charge, as this is part of his need to feel masculine. Husbands who have a wife that is constantly in charge often feel emasculated and/or insecure in their relationship. This is due not only to traditional gender roles in society, but also to human nature at its very core.
That is not to say that a woman should completely agree with everything her husband says or does, nor accept abuse in their relationship. However, if you find yourself completely domineering your husband, maybe you should give him a chance to be dominant — whether in bed, in conversation; if he has a good paying job, don’t feel like you need to one-up him. Allow yourself to yield more to him if you think that your dominance is undermining your relationship. Husbands, if you feel emasculated or inadequate because of your wife’s domination, say something to her — an open and honest dialogue may be the path to a happier marriage.